Curiosity got the better of me with this one and I figured the slight ego boost that comes from seeing how my profession might make me a more desirable romantic partner couldn't hurt.So even though I’m in a happily committed relationship with a saint and not in need of dating tips, I read it.It happens, it really does.Â But for the other 75% (generously speaking) who it doesnâ€™t work out for, this is for you. You have to be â€œmanlierâ€ than she is – This can be complicated. She can carry her own gear – though we do love chivalry and make no mistake, we will teach our sons to hold the door for a lady, be polite and treat every girl like he would his mama, but letâ€™s make something perfectly clear. Â – Sheâ€™ll dial Mommy up for you.Â Unless you are blue, snoring, grossly angulated or have hemorrhaged out more than 1 liter of blood (and trust me, weâ€™re calculating the volume loss), youâ€™re not going to see us get too excited. â€™Â – You know, the one who calls, texts, snapchats, FB updates her every move, thought and breath?Tread lightly.Â We work in a manâ€™s world and she has had to adapt accordingly.Â You remember the tom-boy you loved as a kid? Â We spend every day proving how tough, how competent, how determined, how capable and how in control we can be. – Youâ€™ve heard the terms, Type A, Controlling and OCD? Â Weâ€™re one big tri-pack.Â Should you at any point make an attempt to tell her â€œthis is how itâ€™s going to beâ€ – peace be with you. However, If you do fit any of the above criteria, they youâ€™ve found the right gal. Â The girl who will answer your text, call or IM the moment you send it? Youâ€™re gonna need an iron stomach – If you want to be the rock that she can lean on, youâ€™ll have to be able to listen to the details of her calls as she mentally re-lives those moments, playing them back, checking herself, questioning herself, critiquing herself.Â Donâ€™t interject, donâ€™t try to fix anything, just listen – and donâ€™t vomit. Donâ€™t try to change her -Â Â We often hear men talk about women trying to change them.Â Well, this is a big issue with the female first responder.Â Men are very attracted to the strong, confident, independent women of this field, until they get deeper into the relationship.When you’re in the close confines of the front of an ambulance with another person you learn quickly to bathe regularly, wear deodorant, and to be considerate enough to open the window when you fart.
So my best friend and I were discussing the benifits and challenges of dating someone who is in Fire/EMS versus someone who has no background in Fire/EMS.Both of us agreed that having someone in the same "service" helps you to debrief from work etc but we didn't find much more of pro's and con's for either side. I will speak purely from personal experience and my own opinion so if you don't agree, well that's ok.Kate I have found that the benefits outweigh the the challenges for me.Someone who thinks that means that you love the job more then you love them because of this, well you tend to grow away from and distance yourself. Someone who worries and tells you about how much they worry about the dangerous part of the job, well that can become aggravating. We have all done it and there are times that you can't just leave that call behind and go on about life.All professions are demanding, especially those that require uniforms, and leave no time for a personal life.